I was told by a friend of mine today that she wanted me to write about the realities of being a parent in my blog. That I come off sometimes as too cheery. You want the truth? The truth, like life is, parenting is not fair. You must give up a lot and compromise your identity to some extent and sometimes you feel like you forgot what your other life was like. That kids take a toll on your marriage and your work and your other family life and your sleep.